I heard an interesting phrase this week “You are only as good as what you are doing”. It made me think how many areas of our life that is appropriate for. If you’re a personal assistant and you are totally on top of the game, managing your boss’s diary and checking every detail and keeping the office running smoothly, then you are not “being” a personal secretary, you are “doing” it. So when it comes to your emotional physical or spiritual health, you are also only as good as what you are doing.
If you’re doing well and you enjoy great health then that is fantastic! Your body will reward you richly with a much higher quality of life, on all 3 levels. But to be healthy, you have to do healthy things! Not all the time (thank goodness!). I am absolutely not “holier than thou” when it comes to nutrition. I am no purist. If I go out for a meal I am quite likely to tuck into a dessert providing there’s one on the menu that I like. However, at home I don’t buy them, so it’s not something I do often. I would say on average I “do” health about 85% of the time. The other 15% isn’t me doing violently unhealthy things, but for that time I am more relaxed about my choices, because I know that making unhealthy choices occasionally is not going to make me fat or unfit. No one ever gained a stone from one pizza or one cream cake, but it’s easy to gain a stone if you eat them regularly, in fact it’s pretty much guaranteed.
The problem is that people say they want to be healthy, but are stuck in a rut of making bad choices. whether they be negative food choices, spending hours on the sofa, excess drinking or smoking. None of which would harm your health if you had only done them once.
My job is to help people get out of their stuck state and not just make changes, but enjoy the changes even before they have achieved the longer term rewards. I have many practical techniques that I teach my clients that makes this easier, such as self-hypnosis, tapping, and a few other magic tricks J As a quick reminder one of the best ways to prevent or stop self-sabotage is to tap the triangle sequence every morning and night (do it in the shower or when you clean your teeth and build it into your routine), and to tap the side of your hand throughout the day. This will help to maintain your body’s natural polarity.
The best way to explain this is to think of a battery with a positive and negative charge at either end. If you put the battery in your TV remote in the wrong way up, energy doesn’t flow as it’s supposed to and you cannot change the channel. Every cell in your body has a polarity, it’s one of the ways things get into and out of cells via positive or negative charges, and for a cell to heal the polarity must be positive; damaged cells always have a negative charge.
It’s hardly surprising then that our polarity can affect us emotionally as well. If you are negatively charged or out of balance (this is known as being in “reversal”) then self-sabotage and negativity are a natural state. The good news is, this reversal is really easy to correct. If we go back to the battery, with one end positive and one negative, then the equivalent of your body’s top and bottom is not the top of your head versus the bottom of your feet, its actually the back of your hand and the palm of your hand, which are literally opposite sides of the body.
TFT or Tapping uses the bodies meridians to collapse negative emotions, but the most important tapping point of all is the side of your hand, or karate point, which is the meridian that balances your polarity. Simply by tapping the side of your hand, you can correct reversal and go a long way to stopping self-sabotage. This can actually be measured using a voltmeter and is a very powerful and much under rated technique.
Given that the brain functions on chemical and electrical energy, it makes perfect sense to take a few seconds several times a day to keep it in positive charge, so that we are more able to make positive decisions and choices.
Here’s a quick video demonstrating the technique, or as a reminder if you have seen me teach it before.
There are many other practical ways to quickly snap out of a stuck state which I will be teaching on the Motivation Matters Day in addition to the tips I am sharing through my blogs. You can combine the Motivation Matters Day with the TFT Tapping Course and make it a weekend of total transformation.
Don’t take my word for it, here’s a quick testimonial from the last one!
The thing about change is, you have to have your eye on the prize. You have to have a compelling reason to change; when you have that change is not just possible, its essential. I often think of this as a tipping point. This varies between individuals, and some people can tolerate way more misery than others! When it comes to weight loss, some people will only tolerate an increase of one dress size before being spurred into action, whilst others can go up 3 or 4 sizes before they make changes. Here’s something for you to think about when setting goals and deciding how much weight you want to lose.
- Write down the biggest and heaviest you have ever been (dress size and weight – you must do both).
- Write down the size and weight you are now.
- Write down the smallest size and lightest weight you have ever sustained for more than 6 months (as an adult).
- Write down the exact size and weight you want to be
Now hold all of this information in your mind and take a moment to close your eyes, imagine that you have travelled forward in time and you are now that size shape and weight. Run through a few days in your life and notice what you are eating and how active you are. Now imagine that over time a few extra lbs have crept back on and that your clothes are very tight indeed. How does that feel? Imagine going up just one dress size so that they look better and you feel more comfortable. Is that something you can tolerate?
Now do the same thing again, imagine that size has become too tight, and that you go back up another dress size, is that OK? I know it’s not what you want but is it tolerable?
When you get to the point where you shudder at the thought of going up another dress size, that is your tipping point. If your initial goal is size 12, and let’s say you are now a 16-18, and yet when you imagine being a tight 12 and going back to a 14, if that feels OK then size 14 should be your goal from the start, because this is the size that your unconscious mind accepts.
I will talk more about goal setting in another blog, but let that thought percolate away in the back of your mind until then. In a nutshell, what’s the biggest size that you will settle for and be content with, even if it’s not your ideal? Because that’s the size that is truly achievable AND sustainable. It doesn’t mean that when you reach this size and shape, especially if you have done it using the techniques and methods I can teach you, so that you have a completely different mindset and are not depriving yourself, then you may well want to go down further; and if that’s the case you will find it easier to do so.